You must be really ignorant. Have ever hugged someone, or had the pleasure of rubbing female nipples on a male to give him mini orgasms? Are you serious that you don’t know why men have nipples? They are a very pleasurable zone in addition to the groin. Male and female relationships are not about just the groin – their about rubbing nipples. I can’t believe you would ask such a silly question. How old are you? have you ever hugged someone? Are you a child?

The REAL question is: “Does this literature encourage investigating restraint or giving into animal urges?” I think that the answer is clear…It realistically addresses the challenges of sexual desire while clearly recognizing that there is a path of honor and righteousness where our honor provides the restraint to behave as God intents! We can try to intellectualize this with long dissertations on Agency, but how does that help the young to restrain their behavior and respect their bodies? In truth, it doesn’t! They are visual learners and can understand the use of free will to demonstrate their love through restraint, sacrifice, and honorable choices! It is easy to over-intellectualize these books and try to turn this into an exercise in futility, or better yet, use these to visually teach the young to restrain their desires and live a life of spiritual and physical intimacy that provides eternal happiness that those in the secular world will never enjoy!

As the honorable and responsible father of four young adults, I have successfully used these books to enhance the teaching of my sons and daughters about the values of overcoming our physical urges and using our free will for good. My sons better understand the practicalities of applying the concepts of honor and respect to ALL of their decisions wrt respecting their dates and restraint from physical contact. My daughters better understand their roles in demanding appropriate behavior and respect from their dates. It has helped to clarify what I have taught them all along. As such, these books are a wonderful teaching visuals for young adults.

First, we need to determine if the percentages of married couples doing this with the full knowledge of the other spouse, spouses doing this without the knowledge of their companion and singles.

Second, we need to break down what the prevalence is with regards to sex of the subscriber.

Third, what porn is each demographic looking at?

My own guess is that the vast majority of this [paid] porn is couples viewing mostly straight sex videos that is only one step removed from your standard Cinemax soft-core erotica (some of which is pretty good for the purposes of getting things heated up.) I’m not exactly being a braniac here; I’m just looking at where the bulk of material is being produced.

A second reason for my prediction is that single men know how to get the stuff THEY want for free and don’t really have the money to pay for it anyway and married men and women who are hiding their consumption from their companion are also getting it free because they don’t want to get caught.

One last prediction, among couples, men are the primary drivers of using porn in an attempt to find intimacy that is missing in their marriage. The church repeatedly blunders in emphasizing the matriarchal aspects of relationships and demonizing the patriarchal. This greatly affects many men who find the rejection and demonization of their sexual desires to be emotionally painful. It also affects a lot of women who also want more, but are made to believe that such desires are wicked. A big point is that once they see quality porn, many women realize they enjoy it and that at the very least, isn’t an awful thing so why not if it makes their man happy?

(Sidebar: repeated studies have found that women respond physiologically to porn to the same extent as men, even the hard core stuff. They’ve also found that women respond strongly to depictions of intimacy, regardless of the sexual match up, while men don’t respond outside their own sexual preference.)

PS. For those who scream about “addiction”; give me a break. Even if I accept the use of the word addiction (which I most certainly do not, even for most drugs), you can turn just about anything into an addiction. I know people “addicted” to church. Growing up, there was a man so “addicted” to being Bishop, his wife almost divorced him (though I’ve long suspected he was really just avoiding her, who I suspect was nice to be around, but hell to live with.)

In most other cultures, the threat of having a mistress would

This is not to say that no one has “sexual problems” or should be concerned about them, but it does leave me wondering if something is wrong with our entire model of “good and normal” sex.