This is not to say that no one has “sexual problems” or should be concerned about them, but it does leave me wondering if something is wrong with our entire model of “good and normal” sex.

I’m also curious about the definition of sub-par sex. Who’s making this judgment? I’m not Mr. Sexually Experienced, but I think we over-romanticize sex in our heads. From a purely physical perspective, there isn’t a whole lot variation for a given person’s physiology. Sex is largely a mental thing–doing exactly the same thing with two different partners with exactly the same physiological results may produce extremely different judgments on quality, for lack of a better way phrasing it.

Could it be that women who report having “sub-par” sex, but who do nothing about it, know deep down inside that they are comparing their experience against the fantasized one or even against past experiences they know were intense for reasons that can’t be repeated.

women are so hopelessly conditioned to be content with sub-par sex that nobody seems to care that these women don’t enjoy sex.

But how do they know it’s sub-par? You don’t know what you don’t know, so I’m going to posit that not only are the definitions ineffective and/or insufficient, but that there is no real way to test and refine those definitions.

It’s not like you can put a respondent in a room with a man or woman or device and a guarantee of orgasm to teach them what they’re missing so they can answer the question in a more, uh, scientific? fashion.

Although now I’ve had the idea, I could see how I could probably get a government grant for such a study.

I know I’m preaching to the choir here, but it is in men’s best interest for women to actually enjoy sex.