My Experience with Female Sex Addiction

FYI, I am no expert on women’s sex addiction. Also I remain unsure of the distinction between sex addiction and nymphomania, so it’s possible that I might have the latter and not SA.

Some difficulties I’ve encountered because of sex addiction:

1) As a woman, I was supposed to wait for a man to initiate romance. I’m speaking here from my experience as a singleton. It was super hard to sit home and wait for a guy to call me when my sex drive was super-high. I solved the problem by dating several guys at once so there was always someone handy when I needed them. I didn’t break up with my spare guys until after I was engaged to my husband.

2) As someone who has a fairly limitless sex drive, I find it hard to be ’satisfied.’ I’m typically wanting more. Though this can be pretty fun at times, after while it can be rather tedious for my partner. My experience is that men like to feel like they’ve satisfied their woman and if not, they can get frustrated. One of my boyfriends said I was ‘insatiable.’ I think it really turned him on at times, but it also wore him out.

3) Sometimes I’ve had difficulty with being intimate with my husband. I’m not talking about sex here, I’m talking about spending time kissing or talking or in foreplay. Often I just want to get right down to business. It’s mellowed some over time, but early in our marriage it was pretty challenging. It was a bit of a rude awakening on our wedding night when I just wanted sex, sex, and more sex. We can laugh about that now, but I don’t think it was so funny when we were on our honeymoon.

4) I think about sex constantly, and this sometimes affects my ability to parent and manage my home. I’m working on this, but it’s really hard. I have often thought that I might just be wired more like a man than a woman. Or perhaps there are many women who are wired like I am, but they aren’t likely to be monogamous and Mormon. I grew up in the church and basically felt that I was a deviant sex-crazed maniac. I thought for sure I’d never be temple worthy with the impure thoughts that were constantly running through my mind. Believing that I was depraved sometimes fed the shame cycle that led to risky experimentation with sex.

5) In my younger years my sex drive occasionally led me to make some really poor choices when seeking a partner. I was lucky that I didn’t end up with any long-lasting consequences, but I could have and that thought really frightens me now. I sucked at being single and I fear if I found myself single again I would make poor choices because of my strong desires.